I prefer to accept my life as it is rather than deal with the guilt of having made a resolution and given it up. And that’s why I love this post by Joanne McGonagle on her blog From Freezer to Field.
In her post, Joanne states that research indicates our subconscious is better at remembering unfinished tasks than completed ones. She goes on to say that our subconscious actually moves our accomplishments to the back burner while the remnants of our resolutions move to the forefront. The end result is increased stress and decreased self-esteem.
Joanne suggests that one way to keep our subconscious from sidetracking us is to reject resolutions, reduce material clutter and count our blessings. Research has shown that individuals with a sense of gratitude are less materialistic and more satisfied with their life.
I began this path about 12 years ago when I was going through a major life change and doing a lot of reading about happiness, simplicity and frugal living. What I’ve learned is that I am a much happier person when I focus on who I am, what I’ve done and what I have rather than the opposite.
I've learned that it does not take a lot to make me happy – food, clothing, shelter, friends, family, pets, a job I enjoy and my health. These are the basics I need to live a happy life.
Adopting this attitude is freeing - there is so much that clutters up our lives, and when we let it go, we can see that we really have everything we need right here.
So that is my New Year’s gift to you. Give up resolutions and accept what you have. And do read Joanne’s post – it may start you down a path of your own!